Acceptance vs. Giving up
The first time I heard someone say “You need to accept the situation, you can’t fight it” or “What you resist, persists” I immediately thought “That’s stupid. I’m not going to give up wanting the situation to change for the better.” It took me a long time to realize that I actually wanted my life to be peachy all the time, otherwise I’d be sad or mad and have to work at getting back to peachy.
Now that I’m having the opportunity to look at my health challenge at a deeper level, I’m seeing my old pattern of wanting to get well quickly- and get this painful stiffness thing over with already. (The diagnosis is lyme disease at the moment, determined by a Western blot; though not a full positive it’s not a negative either. Evidently lyme can mimic polymylagia rheumatica, which was an earlier contender.) Because healing is taking longer than I would like, I’m experimenting with the idea of being kind to my body while it’s moving slowly right now. Revolutionary, I know. It’s weird because I’ve never been physically incapacitated like this before, except by an injury. I’m also experimenting with the idea of not pushing too hard and not beating myself up for not moving fast enough. Obviously this was the next lesson I was meant to learn, as that’s all I’ve been doing recently, as I get four focuses of my business up and running. Read more
Living in the Unknown
So, I have two doctors researching what the heck is going on with me- my tendons are becoming stiff and painful and no one is sure why yet. My naturopathic doc, who is an osteopath, is looking at lyme and polymyalgia rheumatia (PMR), and my Kaiser doc is sending me on for a rheumatology consult. (Did you know rheumatology is “the study of disorders characterized by inflammation, degeneration of connective tissue, and related structures of the body.” I never had cause to look it up. It comes from the Latin word ‘rheum’ for ‘flowing like a river,’ from back in Hippocrates’ day when humors (body fluids) were evaluated as indicators of health. I would say now that whatever the Latin word for ‘stiff’ is would be more accurate…) Polymyalgia is more clear- it means ‘many muscles in pain.’ Actually it feels more like my tendons, to me.
I’ve been dealing with this new and unusual experience since April. At first I thought I just had been lazy about stretching and so when my hamstrings started to become as tight as knots, I tried stretching a bit more- but it hurt too much. Then I remembered my wonderful Marin County chiropractor (www.MarilynBritton.com) who practices ART (Activated Release Technique), a tendon/muscle release method which had worked so well for me with mechanical injuries in the past. Now it only worked for a day or two but then the pain started to spread and more tendons were locking up. I felt I was turning into a very old woman very quickly and it was startling and scary. Bending over was hell, let alone trying to get out a chair or out of the car. A month ago, it was a 10 out of 10 pain level. Luckily, I have a deep base of keeping my mind focused on the good outcome I want and a wealth of ancient health modalities to draw upon.
Skyworks on the 4th
One of my most visually stunning and moving Fourth of Julys was at the close of a vacation. I should really have stayed one more day to enjoy hot dogs and fireworks with my dear friends in Maine but I probably had to get back to work or something crazy like that. So, wishing I’d thought more carefully about this last day, I arrived back in Boston in the early evening for a 9pm flight back to San Francisco.
As we took off, I had an amazing and surprising experience! Boston’s fireworks show started just at the same moment! I don’t know why I hadn’t considered this would happen but it was like being an angel in a bursting star.
A True Love story
A couple of amazing things happened to me today that probably confirm the core of a deeper health issue I have been having trouble getting clarity about. I’ve been experiencing ever increasing pain and stiffness in some muscles and tendons over the last few months, which has been a shock after being an athlete most of my life. After several weeks of asking for answers, I was trying to get out of the bath this morning and found I just couldn’t do it! I was too weak and in too much pain. It was the first time I’d ever had felt completely helpless. I yelled for my husband but he wasn’t nearby. So after a couple of minutes of crying in frustration and searching for what I was going to do, I decided to just overcome my weakness by powering through it. I got that I was risking hurting myself and as I pulled myself up with willpower, the words ‘Self Love’ came into my head. It struck a chord within me- this knowingness of truth resonated throughout my body. I understood, in that moment, that I was on the road to take a much deeper cut on self love than I ever had before. Read more
Liberate Yourself From Financial Fears
Is this really possible? Yes. With practice. Here’s the thing:
According to “The Biology of Belief” by Dr. Bruce Lipton, research shows us that our subconscious minds hold our beliefs about life: “[This research] shows that genes and DNA do not control our biology; that instead DNA is controlled by signals outside the cell, including the energetic messages emanating from our positive and negative thoughts.”
So, our subconscious minds also hold our beliefs about money. And most of us have fears about not having enough money, especially when faced with a divorce or breakup.
Laura shares about Gratitude at Unity Spiritual Center
Laura: I was asked to speak about gratitude at the Unity Spiritual Center recently. As I pondered what I wanted to share, I keenly remembered one of the most distressing and debilitating times of my life. I had gone through a difficult divorce and my ex-husband had disappeared with my 2 children at a visitation. The shock and the worry put me in a panic and the fear that I would never see them again cut through me, creating an painful ulcer. For almost a year I had no idea where my kids were or if they were alright. (Jeune, please add a read more link here)
You might wonder what gratitude has to do with this dismal situation. Actually I had no gratitude at all while this situation was happening, but I did know enough to know that God/The Universe/Spirit was ultimately in charge of my kids. Daily, for almost a year, I asked for their safety, their well-being and their happiness. One day, out of the blue, I got a phone call from someone in England who knew my former spouse. Somehow he had found my phone number. He had an intuition that I was their mother. He had concerns about the children. Within a day I was on a plane and went to reclaim them and bring them home. I was overjoyed to be reunited with them again.
Spiritual Economics
If you’re looking for a comforting book to alleviate your money fears, here’s our recommendation: “Spiritual Economics” by Eric Butterworth, a Unity Church minister who knew the true nature of money. He speaks about the energy of money and how to achieve trust that money is there for you.
Here’s a wonderful quote: “There is only one way by which you can achieve prosperity. It is to take charge of your mind” … affirm: “I am a richly endowed expression of an opulent Universe. There is always a sufficiency to do the things I want and need to do.”
One of my favorite metaphors he uses is to think of ourselves as fish in the abundant ocean of Universal Supply. It’s always around us and always available to us.
You will feel so much better reading this book- when you learn that money is as far away as your next idea, your next gift to the world.
To your wealth,
Judy
Secondary Trauma
We work with trauma and we were impressed with this article:
Understanding Secondary Trauma
http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/6-27-2006-100635.asp
Holosync Meditation for Peace and Calm
Would you like to be able to meditate much more easily and gain the benefits without years of practice? Some say Holosync technology is “the lazy man’s way to meditate.”
It’s true. I’ve been using this CD system for five years now and find that it is one of the most important tools to give me the benefit to handle anything that comes my way without stressing. I have a sense of calm that everything will be OK.
I also look forward to meditating instead of beating myself up for scheduling it, then not following through because I have so many things “to do.” And I love the sound of the rain and Tibetan bells, as well as knowing my affirmations are running through the background straight into my subconscious mind, where my mental programming is held.
I invite you to check out Holosync as one way to achieve these benefits…
Stop the Morning Dread Syndrome From Upset to Uplift
What’s it like for you in the first few minutes upon awakening?
As your mind starts to “come to”, do you find yourself sinking into despair or accelerating to panic as you remember you are going through a painful breakup?
Does the dread of it all feel like you’re being dragged you into a bleak and dark hole?
Do you want to go numb and hide under the covers?
I know I used to feel this way. Morning after dreaded morning. It was so hard to get going and feel hopeful because the cascade of gloom had stolen my mind.
Out of this desperation, I created a way to Head Off the Pain and Launch an Uplift “Rescue Mission”. It worked for me and it has worked for many others since. Try it for yourself.
First: Ammo Up
Find a time when you are fully awake and able to reflect. Ask yourself how you would like to feel and what you want your day to bring you. Make a list of 10 to 15 Uplift statements. These need to be positive, yet believable intentions, and provide a “feel good” response to negative thoughts that you struggle with.
Small degrees of mental change can actually create big degrees of emotional relief. It is all about being congruent. This means that if you are full of grief now, getting to all encompassing joy would be a very big emotional step for the mind to agree to. It would probably create resistance. A believable degree of change would be to access a state that feels better than grief, such as hope or acceptance. From there, I promise you, steady advancement will continue.
You will know if the Uplift Statements resonate with you because you will feel a sigh of relief deep inside you as you read them.
